Maybe they’ll call each other “BFFs” and watch movies or have dinner together, but they do so in a detached way—as though their sexual identity doesn’t matter.All the while, lines of propriety get blurred, resulting in unhealthy and often unintended emotional attachments.
The problem usually isn't that people don't know whether or not they want to date, it's that they're afraid the other person doesn't feel the same way. Overcoming this fear involves two steps: Something needs to be more important to you than finding a boyfriend or girlfriend.
And that just happens to make them more attractive. We have something, or rather Someone, who's eager to give our life a sense of mission, meaning, and value.
At some point, someone decided it wasn't cool to let someone know that you're interested in him or her. That can be the case sometimes, but it's not true if you've taken care of step 1 above.
You're exploring the possibility of a relationship with one person. D., is a practicing psychologist in Pasadena, California, and a clinical professor at Fuller Theological Seminary.
If it doesn't work out, God's love will take care of you far more than the love of any human on earth. He is the author of What Women Wish You Knew about Dating (Baker) and Assaulted by Joy: The Redemption of a Cynic (Zondervan).
This kind of fearful hemming and hawing isn't how Christians should do things. I'm not saying that in deference to antiquated courtship rituals. You need a passion, something that excites you and gives your life meaning and purpose.